"Hardships often prepare people for an extraordinary destiny." - C.S. Lewis
Hi it's Beverley here. The words of C.S. Lewis ring so true for me!
This was how I discovered my true ‘calling’, and now I’m here to share what I I’ve learned on my journey and help you to find inner peace and contentment. I’m not a qualified doctor or psychotherapist, so if you are suffering from extreme anxiety or depression, then I do suggest you seek professional help.
3 years ago, I was exposed to anxiety after having a vicious undiagnosed virus. I became incredibly anxious about many things including my work, my health, my income, my inability to carry out my church leadership roles and so forth…
I was unable to attend my local church for a considerable period of time and I remember being visited by one of the Elders and a Deacon. They realised it must have been something pretty serious to keep me away from attending church for such a long period of time.
I have a big love for my piano and there came a time when I was unable to play. My fingers just wouldn’t go where I wanted them to go and I couldn’t remember the sequence of notes I needed to play.
I remember getting really angry with myself and even with God, yes you heard right!, because I truly believed I would never be able to play as well ever again.
The effects of the virus died off within months, yet my anxiety remained. In fact, it grew stronger as I became more and more restless and worried. What followed next was a plague of fear…the fear of wondering if I would ever get better, the fear of having to accept that maybe I wouldn’t!
Despite being born into a Christian family with strong beliefs and was taught the message of hope, I became fearful of my current condition and for the future.
How can it be possible for someone with such a strong religious faith be a candidate for anxiety? Well, actually it wasn’t my lack of Faith to blame…
The reality was, I was burnout completely unaware of it. I had been running on empty for a considerable period of time without even knowing it until what I felt was like a fuse that suddenly blew in my entire body! I had experienced a complete shut down. I could hardly eat, drink, cook, work, concentrate, walk, drive, spend quality time with my husband and children and much more....
This was dark, gloomy episode, which abruptly entered our lives!
I visited my GP (our local medical doctor) for help but even after many tests, they couldn’t identify anything as being wrong. I was still left with a lot of pain and discomfort.
In a desperate search for relief, I started searching the Internet and typed in symptoms of my condition. What I was led to was anxiety, something I had never heard of before. I also discovered a range of natural remedies and tried a few things out, some of which helped and others didn’t.
As I continued my search for answers, I discovered more about anxiety such as OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder), panic attacks, phobias, and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).
My BIG wake-up call however, was to find out much of my symptoms matched many of the descriptions of ‘Generalised Anxiety’. In a nutshell, I had developed a fear disorder and was stressed out about not being able to pursue my dreams. The tension became too much and had finally impacted my business, my finances, my relationships and my health.
Typical warning symptoms of anxiety might include:
Do these symptoms sound familiar... We're Not Alone
According to the World Health Organisation (WHO), 1 in 13 globally suffers from anxiety, affecting 40 million adults in the United States. They also report that anxiety disorders are the most common mental disorders worldwide.
In the UK, an organisation known as Anxiety UK reports that more than 1 in 10 people are likely to have a ‘disabling anxiety disorder’ at some stage in their life In fact, they also estimate that 13% of the adult population will develop a specific form of specific form of anxiety.
The real eye opener here is that the most popular form of anxiety is generalised, with no actual medical reason attached to it. In fact the most developed pharmaceutical companies haven’t been able to produce a miracle pill to cure it. Why… because it’s controlled by our thoughts.
So, How did finding this out help with my recovery? Well, I have 2 hidden secrets to share with you.
SECRET 1: Emotional Resilience
Build Resilience by Renewing Your Mind
We overcome by renewing our minds, in other words, how we think!
Proverbs 23:7 (NKJV) reads: ‘For as he thinks in his heart, so is he.’
“A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.”
If you think of the worst outcome in your situation you will physically emotionally and mentally respond to what's going on in your mind, because it's what you believe to be true.
I truly believed I was seriously ill despite of the fact that I wasn’t. You see, our bodies naturally honours and supports what we deeply think about the current situation we find ourselves in, but we can control our response to what's happening around us; what is fearful and our interpretation of what it means.
This is great news since, once we learn how to crack this, by living more in our conscious brain and choosing to think differently, anxiety can slowly fade into background. Now I’m not saying it’s as easy as 123, but as you consistently build resiliency skills along the way, you can look forward to taking back control of your mind and make anxiety a thing of the past!
Here are a 6 mind tools I used along the way
to restructure my thinking
SECRET 2: Spiritual Resilience
Build Resilience by Discovering Your Life Purpose
When we’re feeling depleted, lost, even numb, we are likely to make statements like, “Why is this happening to me” and ask questions like, “ Why am I here?” What’s my purpose?” - in other words our ‘“WHY”
““He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how.”
Our sense of “why” gives us greater reason and motivation to keep going.
William Shakespeare said, "The meaning of life is to find your gift. The purpose of life is to give it away."
Leonardo da Vinci said, “Make your work to be in keeping with your purpose”
Have you ever heard a mother or father say… “I’m doing this for my kids”
These are all great examples of people with a clear WHY.
So, how about you? Are you clear on your WHY? Are you ready to let go of whatever is holding you back from living your true self and become the soulful changemaker you’re meant to be?
Did you know that finding your purpose in life has been proven to significantly reduce anxiety?
If what you’re currently doing isn’t giving you the results you want, are you willing to take a new approach?
Renew your mind by building your personal resilience!
If you need help with getting started, simply download my Ebook, The Secret about Anxiety & Your Life Purpose and work through the exercises for healing, restoration and spiritual direction in life.
Say Aloud: My life is not defined by what has happened to me. I can choose from this moment to move forward.
You're Not Alone.... “In the UK, an organisation known as Anxiety UK reports that more than 1 in 10 people are likely to have a ‘disabling anxiety disorder’ at some stage in their life In fact, they also estimate that 13% of the adult population will develop a specific form of specific form of anxiety."
I'm resilient Bev, co-founder of Soulful Changemakers and over the last years, I've inspired and coached high achieving women to fulfil their goals, happiness and life purpose in a healthy, sustainable way. When I'm not running my business, I love spending time with my 2 adorable children and husband, developing skills and giving back. Now I want to help you re-energise, refocus and create the meaningful, purposeful and abundant life you really want NOW! Read more about my story here.
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